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"Topping from the bottom" is often a negatively charged phrase in my region's kink community.
It's batted around more by the many of us more likely to chew on words in-between consensual biting our loved ones.

There's times I find myself needing kink language to explain to not kink friends what I'm having an issue with.

Topping from the bottom.

OK, so, here's my rant.
It has it's place. It has places it's dreadful. Sometimes in kink and elsewhere, they overlap.

Topping from the bottom is attempting to lead in an activity which you have delegated another person leader.

It does have it's place.
And if it's done very well, it often has more places outside of the kink world.
I hear sometimes that to be truly great at a craft, you must be able to teach it to another. Topping from the bottom can be like that.

It's easy to slip into this in our social interactions outside of kink. I don't mean just me. I mean outside of kink I see topping from the bottom a lot.

Topping from the bottom can be very undermining feeling when you are the delegated leader.
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